tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post4425163850008388445..comments2024-03-23T12:41:51.389+00:00Comments on Barbara Gray's Blog. One Day at a Time.: Mindful Wednesday. And then I left him....Barbarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13395889137439058863noreply@blogger.comBlogger76125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-72932681200632597282015-09-03T20:14:35.600+01:002015-09-03T20:14:35.600+01:00Love and hugs!WxxLove and hugs!WxxWendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00955474018659798482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-50416044264324623482015-09-03T18:08:56.356+01:002015-09-03T18:08:56.356+01:00Bless you xBless you xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05136784417605273432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-5261881980492715292015-09-03T17:45:40.338+01:002015-09-03T17:45:40.338+01:00Thank you for sharing Barbara , I think that shari...Thank you for sharing Barbara , I think that sharing is caring ,and you are obviously a very caring person.<br />I read a book not too long ago called "everything belongs ".....even the bad bits , because it has the capacity to make us who we are .....who we really are.<br />You are Barbara ....a gem !<br />God Bless <br />RuthxxxAspiring crafterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08297502505411589163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-4944968461201645802015-09-03T16:30:00.764+01:002015-09-03T16:30:00.764+01:00Thank you for sharing this very personal journey w...Thank you for sharing this very personal journey with us Barbara. You are a much stronger person for this experience which has made you the person you are to-day. You are an inspiration to us all and show how Acceptance is a part of life that we must all understand - not easy though. xx Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07338087778665283939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-50942376903373166102015-09-03T15:03:43.790+01:002015-09-03T15:03:43.790+01:00Thankyou, thankyou for yet another mind blowing &#...Thankyou, thankyou for yet another mind blowing 'mindful Wednesday. So well written and explaining life's journey and the things we learn along the way. It took me over 10 years to accept my marriage would never get any better and wishing and hoping didn't work. Mental cruelty took it's toll and when I divorced and accepted this, I found unbelievable happiness with my 2nd husband - albeit for 11 years until he died of a heart attack (with unknown heart disease)<br />Eight years on and so grateful for the happiness my second marriage gave us.<br />So Acceptance of what life dishes out is only just coming in to play after 8 long years of grieving.<br />Thank goodness for our children, grandchildren, friends and hobbies to keep us going.<br />Bless you for a special piece of your experiences and your positive way forward. xxxYou put a Spell on Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13750329835367342881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-29565035661742688912015-09-03T13:47:11.365+01:002015-09-03T13:47:11.365+01:00Thanks for sharing Barbara, it takes a lot of cour...Thanks for sharing Barbara, it takes a lot of courage to do so. What a great word acceptance is, one I think I will ponder on. How's Dave doing? xxAngelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11205397154492298001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-8220696688343740352015-09-03T10:37:59.139+01:002015-09-03T10:37:59.139+01:00Thank you for this, Barbara, seems so many of us h...Thank you for this, Barbara, seems so many of us have walked the same path... I too was in a very bad marriage, he left when our second child was born profoundly disabled. I lost my son when he was four, and my daughter and I have battled on for ten years. A couple of years ago I met a wonderful man, whom I wish I had met years ago, he would have been the father my son deserved. Now, at 50, I am engaged to be married, and cannot believe how good life is now! Thanks to your daily blogs I am crafting every day, making all my wedding stationery etc, and really concentrating on mindfulness and acceptance. You are very special. XxxRuthieroohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02694214067067825885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-29720707329559529432015-09-03T10:24:43.904+01:002015-09-03T10:24:43.904+01:00I'm reminded of something my lovely dad used t...I'm reminded of something my lovely dad used to say, Barbara: circumstances don't shape people; they reveal them.Clearly your inner strength and courage got you through those awful years, and thank god for it. Look where it's brought you – right here, to Clarity Stamp, to C&C and then to Hochanda! And to this blog. To take something so painful and negative and turn it into the positive, creative success your life has since become, is fantastic. Well done hardly seems adequate! :) I hope in among all that acceptance (which is wonderful) is also an acceptance – however humble – of how incredibly talented and inspiring you are. Thank you for sharing your storyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12911102084077381249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-41525158449434081072015-09-03T10:04:59.596+01:002015-09-03T10:04:59.596+01:00Hi Barbara, thanks for sharing such a personal sto...Hi Barbara, thanks for sharing such a personal story. Acceptance..I have come to accept that our daughter will never be out of pain. (hypermobility with wide spread chronic pain.) She has just turned 24 and has had this condition for 5 years. She still lives with us as she wouldn't manage on her own.Berylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08903055311523690569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-64430056705235563752015-09-03T09:52:26.187+01:002015-09-03T09:52:26.187+01:00Ta heaps everyone, she told me on Tuesday through ...Ta heaps everyone, she told me on Tuesday through her tears how much it means to have all these people sending love, hugs, kind thoughts and prayers and these help her through the low times, so thanks you everyone. I also should say they help me too, knowing that you are all there so thank you from me, making it easier to help Jill through this. KarenAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01723615957762128781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-41570857707200591562015-09-03T09:49:03.244+01:002015-09-03T09:49:03.244+01:00What a hard decision to make and a brave one as it...What a hard decision to make and a brave one as it is sometimes easier to just pretend it is not happening. I hope you and your friend can support each other through this difficult time and in between, we are always here for you to moan to, have a cry or whatever you need to help you through it. Much hugs Karen xxx Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01723615957762128781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-15096205102715167192015-09-03T09:42:16.390+01:002015-09-03T09:42:16.390+01:00Here's hoping for a speedy recovery and that t...Here's hoping for a speedy recovery and that the cast does not get too itchy! Hope you managed to switch off your brain and sleep well. Karen xxxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01723615957762128781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-17797013842559961642015-09-03T07:55:11.736+01:002015-09-03T07:55:11.736+01:00Hi Barbara. I have never been in an abusive relati...Hi Barbara. I have never been in an abusive relationship but due to health problems Acceptance has been a big part of my life. Thank you for sharing your life with us and for reminding us that accepting that our children may live far away but they are still with us, unlike parents that have lost their children!<br />You are a wonderful strong lady and deserve all of the good people and things life can give you. May your words give anyone in a bad place right now food for thought. The Serenity words are so meaningful.<br />Have a good day. Take care xxMrs Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16179962719631818018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-65809971667136395682015-09-03T01:34:58.901+01:002015-09-03T01:34:58.901+01:00Hi Barbara
You are such a brave lady walking away...Hi Barbara <br />You are such a brave lady walking away from the relationship with nothing, supporting the children and yourself for all the years that followed and working your socks off to run the business and make enough money to live on and also sharing your story with us all. I think you are a remarkable role model for all of us and especially your lovely children. You have your lovely Dave now and it shines through you how important he is to your life . My lovely daughter goes to university on Saturday 600 miles away from home. I have had to accept her choice of uni, it is a beautiful place and I know she will be happy and safe there but it's still such a long way away for my 'little girl ' to be. We are all being brave but something I once heard keeps coming back to me. You have to let your children fly for them to be able to find their way home. Very true I know - I'm sure at Christmas I will be moaning because there are piles of stuff lying around and she's leaving dirty plates on the floor but I will still love her loads and will miss her so much. Thank you for sharing such a personal blog with us today. Love and hugs Diane xxxDiane Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04007431860077443115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-38486230406357978672015-09-03T01:23:21.716+01:002015-09-03T01:23:21.716+01:00Oh my goodness, not a good start to the term! I ho...Oh my goodness, not a good start to the term! I hope he makes a speedy recovery. Sending you both a hug xxxDiane Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04007431860077443115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-56230106935014779702015-09-03T01:15:24.880+01:002015-09-03T01:15:24.880+01:00Rosalind such a hard decision for you to make but ...Rosalind such a hard decision for you to make but in your heart of hearts you know it's the best one for both of you. Sending you and your wonderful friend a big hugxxxDiane Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04007431860077443115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-47854687758348902752015-09-03T01:10:50.005+01:002015-09-03T01:10:50.005+01:00Karen I really feel for that poor lady, I agree it...Karen I really feel for that poor lady, I agree it's always the loveliest people that have such awful things thrown at them. Please give the lady a hug from me too and have one for yourself too for being so kind xxxDiane Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04007431860077443115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-18168808428693326132015-09-03T00:03:27.626+01:002015-09-03T00:03:27.626+01:00It has been a traumatic day as my husband (and co-...It has been a traumatic day as my husband (and co-worker) managed to miss a step in the our school's art centre and throw himself down the stairs - on the first day of term, thas broken his leg in three places. Back at home, exhausted willing myself to go to sleep, acceptance is a very good word to ponder. Not worry about 'what if' or 'why' but accept the situation for what it is and take each day as it comes. Goodnight and thank you for sharing. xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02379907230747638425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-43324493864032469792015-09-02T23:48:37.477+01:002015-09-02T23:48:37.477+01:00As you say we all have something I seemed to have ...As you say we all have something I seemed to have lived my life in denial,my mother died when I was three years old and all my life I seem to have lurched from one disastrous situation to another including an abusive marriage. I had two beautiful Labrador dogs in my later years who gave me the peace I needed they taught me to see things through a dogs eyes ,to give without expecting anything in return and most of all to Accept life for what it is. I live Today and enjoy the marvel of this beautiful planet we live on I accept the things I cannot change and absorb everything life throws at me with the philosophy that there is always tomorrow. I love my Crafting and have recently got in the Groove and can't wait to see what goodies you are going to bring us to help us on this mindful journey.uniquihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14877791231064008861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-91650973475152634662015-09-02T23:22:14.613+01:002015-09-02T23:22:14.613+01:00Yes it has ,enjoy will be thinking of you xxxYes it has ,enjoy will be thinking of you xxxsheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03224468884045534214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-5272606759628723872015-09-02T23:16:14.792+01:002015-09-02T23:16:14.792+01:00Thank you for sharing your past and the way you su...Thank you for sharing your past and the way you survived and grew from this. You always appear such a strong woman that its hard to imagine you as anything but that. Good for you for breaking away when you did and allowing you to grow into a new happier and fulfilling lifeTraceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16250920646582678487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-13736133953253157682015-09-02T23:13:46.638+01:002015-09-02T23:13:46.638+01:00Oh dear poor lady! Just as she has good news. Th...Oh dear poor lady! Just as she has good news. Thinking of her and let's hope everything gets easier for her soon. XxDonna Brookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17501493511153954956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-83005592832594664112015-09-02T23:12:01.989+01:002015-09-02T23:12:01.989+01:00I think you have a spammer here, one above this Es...I think you have a spammer here, one above this Esango Shrine Barbara.<br /><br />You are a very strong lady, I wish I had been as strong as you years ago.Cazzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17034652534506542944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-19584208592109239622015-09-02T23:11:13.506+01:002015-09-02T23:11:13.506+01:00Your story was very moving Barbara and it is so ve...Your story was very moving Barbara and it is so very good of you to share this with us. After a crap day at work for me today ,you have just put things in to perspective and I end the day in a better frame of mind xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05437471250190549445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-66568151761114377072015-09-02T23:09:34.531+01:002015-09-02T23:09:34.531+01:00Hi Sheila, last day of freedom today, back to work...Hi Sheila, last day of freedom today, back to work tomorrow! Its gone sooooo quickly! XxDonna Brookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17501493511153954956noreply@blogger.com