tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post7272896342060897612..comments2024-03-23T12:41:51.389+00:00Comments on Barbara Gray's Blog. One Day at a Time.: Restraint of Pen and TongueBarbarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13395889137439058863noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-54277114894771806282017-11-09T13:36:32.902+00:002017-11-09T13:36:32.902+00:00They are sad little people who haven't got the...They are sad little people who haven't got the gumption to succeed in life. Sod .em.<br />Jean Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13263639909865888750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-46905197821826400212017-11-09T06:47:49.578+00:002017-11-09T06:47:49.578+00:00Very wise thoughts. Hugs Very wise thoughts. Hugs Lellie jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00950477182410023075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-46402694739619356392017-11-09T06:06:34.905+00:002017-11-09T06:06:34.905+00:00Hello Barb, wise words indeed. I do hope I have no...Hello Barb, wise words indeed. I do hope I have not said anything out of turn to you. I do suffer a similar issue with anger, but have trouble keeping my mouth shut sometimes. Take care. BxBridgetCGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08370944108823972025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-18176984918571088752017-11-08T23:30:34.146+00:002017-11-08T23:30:34.146+00:00HI BARBARA. WHEN I WAS 14 (I'M 63 NOW) LIVING ...HI BARBARA. WHEN I WAS 14 (I'M 63 NOW) LIVING IN LONDON I WAS ALWAYS COMING HOME WITH POSTERS FOR MY WALL. BUT THIS TIME IT WAS MY DAD'S TURN TO GIVE ME A POSTER.. YOU SEE I WAS ALWAYS ROWING WITH MY MUM. THIS POSTER SAID<br />OH LORD HELP ME TO KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT UNTIL I'M WISE ENOUGH TO OPEN IT. ....FOOD FOR THOUGHT. AND STAYED ON MY WALL TIL I LEFT HOME.SpookysCraftyMesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00110329731005986817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-66627688040989681612017-11-08T23:05:32.076+00:002017-11-08T23:05:32.076+00:00Hi Barbara
Oh not again, why do these silly people...Hi Barbara<br />Oh not again, why do these silly people like to have a go at you! It must be because you are popular and wonderful. Just ignore them, it's the best thing to do. You are a wise soul and have them sussed, you know they wouldn't be brave enough to have that conversation face to face. Hope your meeting went well. Take care<br />Love Diane xxxDiane Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04007431860077443115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-78297359775324502742017-11-08T22:39:21.937+00:002017-11-08T22:39:21.937+00:00My expression has always been that " A fire w...My expression has always been that " A fire will only burn if you give it oxygen, No oxygen, and it will fizzle out." It may smoulder away for a while, but eventually it will just go out.... nuff said. ..... <br />djroeablehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06130823053675132265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-18624720530017013542017-11-08T22:22:07.509+00:002017-11-08T22:22:07.509+00:00Oh Barbara, not again. Why do people say hurtful t...Oh Barbara, not again. Why do people say hurtful things? How would they feel if the tables were turned. You are so right to turn away and find a trusty friend. We love you Barbara and you are so generous both with your time and talents xxColumbinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09990485523897535400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-80311192343390668532017-11-08T22:15:08.977+00:002017-11-08T22:15:08.977+00:00So agree with your thoughts Barbara.
My mantra is ...So agree with your thoughts Barbara.<br />My mantra is ' if you can't say something nice, better to say nothing at all' It's what I try to get the children to think about too. <br />I saw a poster with good advice<br />Before you speak<br />THINK<br />Is it True?<br />Is it Helpful?<br />Is it Interesting?<br />Is it Nice?<br />Is it Kind?<br /><br />If the answer to any of these is NO, then keep quiet.<br />Perhaps some folks who write these unkind, unhelpful, uninteresting comments on social media should take notice!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09574303003837328911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-79324323507921208452017-11-08T22:13:44.052+00:002017-11-08T22:13:44.052+00:00Wise words Barbara, sometimes it is hard to ignore...Wise words Barbara, sometimes it is hard to ignore but be strong !Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613437244793930056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-85141682086838096812017-11-08T22:01:38.088+00:002017-11-08T22:01:38.088+00:00Absolutely true. And you have the Clarity Army to ...Absolutely true. And you have the Clarity Army to defend you as well! XMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02255174766844727466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-26834655353885405462017-11-08T21:42:12.095+00:002017-11-08T21:42:12.095+00:00Couldn't agree more xxCouldn't agree more xxTDQ Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14299341690641073856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-53300564085917457932017-11-08T21:17:57.168+00:002017-11-08T21:17:57.168+00:00So well said Barbara!So well said Barbara!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17133552954262653041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-70223572903516807532017-11-08T21:05:06.261+00:002017-11-08T21:05:06.261+00:00Well said Barb, totally agree with you xxWell said Barb, totally agree with you xxlindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16168652642801156122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-88353800013433098932017-11-08T20:16:55.466+00:002017-11-08T20:16:55.466+00:00great wisdom. hugs xxgreat wisdom. hugs xxTheresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09228573719518500700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-57964126904708836372017-11-08T19:49:32.613+00:002017-11-08T19:49:32.613+00:00I absolutely agree well said that Lady and I admir...I absolutely agree well said that Lady and I admire your restraint it can not be easy sometimes!<br />Facebook is a great place to meet like minded people, negative comments or argumentative words see me scroll on by always have always will, your Dads words are so true and similar was said to me when being bullied at school....walk away and ignore the bullies......hard to do but great feeling when you realise it works. 😊<br /><br />Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12255716578178893351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-5042449728804283892017-11-08T19:30:03.283+00:002017-11-08T19:30:03.283+00:00Hi Chris,
Gosh you have been busy! Bet you're ...Hi Chris,<br />Gosh you have been busy! Bet you're goosed! Hope you got on well with the duets. Love and hugs Alison xxalimeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17590486915910442414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-46281136453281203112017-11-08T19:26:15.614+00:002017-11-08T19:26:15.614+00:00Hi Pam,
Sending love and hugs to you and hoping yo...Hi Pam,<br />Sending love and hugs to you and hoping you're well as you can be, Alison xxxalimeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17590486915910442414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-50206301988641548122017-11-08T19:24:48.054+00:002017-11-08T19:24:48.054+00:00Oh, Gilly and Chris, I'm exactly the same! I a...Oh, Gilly and Chris, I'm exactly the same! I am very patient, and very easy going and will do anything to avoid an argument,but once I do get angry, I am horrible! People at school used to say that one look from me in a temper would be enough - didn't even have to say anything!! Love and hugs to you both, Alison xxxalimeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17590486915910442414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-21163075519552773952017-11-08T19:02:10.630+00:002017-11-08T19:02:10.630+00:00I agree with you Barbara, some people like to prod...I agree with you Barbara, some people like to prod and poke to see if they can get a reaction so it is good not to give them the response they want. Taking a second to think about it before giving a response is the best way to go. Personally I have been known to bite back but not too often I think, and a look can speak a thousand words. xPathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02889103826921393113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-55252205806960392232017-11-08T18:50:45.423+00:002017-11-08T18:50:45.423+00:00Wise words Barbara. I've noticed that some peo...Wise words Barbara. I've noticed that some people are becoming less tolerant generally and give quite negative comments oblivious to how it may hurt. So I scroll on by or withdraw to a safe place and hope that only being kind to others will help. Take care xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12810904628656069260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-25543378615623043352017-11-08T18:09:42.830+00:002017-11-08T18:09:42.830+00:00I've got a fairly nasty temper....but can coun...I've got a fairly nasty temper....but can count on less than one hand the number of times I've actually 'lost' it! I developed a tactic of not giving people the response they expected just before I reached my teens (many years ago!) and still use it now...love the way it totally 'wrong foots' people and I usually have to beat a hasty exit before I break into a fit of giggles which would totally ruin the 'moment' if you get my meaning. Still don't get why people think it's their right to wind people up, slag them off or whatever etc on social media but you'll always get them...unfortunately! Easiest to just let them get on with it.Suhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02073254556390782528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-34768877495067187752017-11-08T17:32:47.266+00:002017-11-08T17:32:47.266+00:00Sometimes as you get older you forget these wise w...Sometimes as you get older you forget these wise words then kick yourself for taking the bait. I don't know how some people can write some things on Feb and I was always taught it's nice to be nice hugs Barbara keep up the good work your doing a lovely job and are a very popular lassie xxGroovi janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05232847282851346076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-53440967450851698952017-11-08T16:59:35.342+00:002017-11-08T16:59:35.342+00:00Very wise words Barbara, if only these keyboard wa...Very wise words Barbara, if only these keyboard warriors stopped and thought about what they were going to say before they press send! Love all you and your team do and find your work inspiring. Love & hugs Jenny xJennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05201510107074437407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-37428484931701413732017-11-08T16:55:47.179+00:002017-11-08T16:55:47.179+00:00Very true words Dear Barbara .... I do not like it...Very true words Dear Barbara .... I do not like it when there are those who hide behind the keyboard and say things that hurt etc etc. Good advice not to bite <br /><br />Hugs x Pen Sunshinepenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15377395808480318484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5012372152948410381.post-25791393960969774982017-11-08T16:41:06.947+00:002017-11-08T16:41:06.947+00:00My response to social media negativity - 1.) type ...My response to social media negativity - 1.) type a reply, 2.) save in draft 3.) either count to ten or wait ten minutes 4.) re-read 5.) delete. <br />Works as a great salve and also to vent one's spleen without any upset. ;~}<br />Shelagh Metselaarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06521287880796226910noreply@blogger.com